Being Wrong
Some of what I know to be true is false.
Being (somewhat) wrong is a natural state of being.
It rarely harms me.
But when it does...
Boom!
What to do?
Pay careful attention where error has the greatest impact on my life.
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Blindspots - what are the areas where I am unlikely to be right?
In a marriage, a business partnership, an investment, a sport... the greater our personal, emotional investment... the bigger the fall when a new reality slams against our old beliefs.
Often a feeling of righteous anger comes forth, and along with it, a desire to lash out.
When these feelings arise I remember:
I fooled myself. Make a note! It is going to happen again!
Acknowledge, we all want to be fooled. I am not alone, nor am I the first to experience this situation. Nothing personal, bro.
Further energy invested into a (clearly) losing situation is better spent creating the life I want, within my new reality.
It is easy to get hooked into a cycle of mutual retribution - it might even feel good, for a while...
...but you might not be aware of the harm you are creating.
Sleep, skin, hair, mood swings, cravings... all useful signals when we are off-the-path.
Tough to point this out directly to someone! The people who have been effective with me have said something along the lines of...
"I wonder if there might be a better way to handle this..."
"You're right, of course, but you might feel different later..."
Attention
What's the penalty for being wrong?
Marriage partner
My last haircut
Sports with a high degree of concussion risk
Sunscreen
Business partnership
The shirt I wear
Personal guaranties
The color of my socks
Borrowing money
What I am having for dinner
The ability of my children to teach themselves
My choice of car
My temper
Be willing to talk about what matters, with the people who matter to you.