Changing Everything
A favorite question:
What one thing, if it happened, would change everything?
It can be uncomfortable to acknowledge that our current life experience is a result of the (mostly mental) habits that we've created to date.
When I ask myself the above question, I compare my answer to where I spent my time over the last week. I often find myself lacking focus.
Creation of Habits + Time = Life Situation
With the above equation, I consider my habits of thought, action and speech. Listen quietly to any person and they will tell you what they think of themselves (by the humor they share about others).
Because we are mostly operating on autopilot, Free Will is found at the margin of our lives. So, to change EVERYTHING, we need to figure out our ONE THING and focus our Free Will.
Some things:
Getting fit
Family income and expense balance
Gaining control of my schedule
Losing weight
Being able to ride outside in good weather
Being able to eat and drink as much as I want
Finding love
Publishing a book
Winning a special race
Finding a sexual partner
I've had many "one things."
So many that I joke with my wife, "Honey, I think I've finally found THE answer."
I joke but there have been several things that have proved transformative:
A kind spouse that motivates self-improvement
Capital to support freedom of occupation and location
Weight loss and exercise leading to wellness
Shedding disharmony - in my own mind and in my choice of peers
A willingness to own, and share, my errors
Living in a beautiful place where I enjoy an outdoor life
Right now, I have two things:
Reducing the fatigue that I experience from parenting
Achieving income/expense balance
What's your thing?
Awareness is the first step towards transformation.
Sustainable action consists of building the habit of one small action, done first each day.