Yesterday's bullets are the price I pay for my current life:
Sleep (for families & for athletes)
Eat huge salads (see also Considering Appetite)
Daily movement in nature
Perform small acts of kindness
They are not what-it-takes to be a good husband and father.
The bullets are my "to do" list to have the capacity to improve.
If you invert the list: fatigue, poor nutrition, no exercise, interact with family when stressed, be miserly, focus on external validation... ...then I start heading towards a different outcome.
An outcome many consider both normal and highly successful. The alternative outcome never felt right to me.
Before starting down the path of becoming better I had to create the capacity to change.
Telling myself that I was going to stop my "bad" habits didn't work. Replacing my habits did work.
Salads, exercise, nature, acts of kindness and spending time in my best environments....
...taken together they displace a lot of poor choices. Choices that reduce my capacity.
Sleep and no-compete...
....increase my overall capacity.
Paying the price to change is uncomfortable but not changing is worse.